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women should masturbate whether they are single or in a relationship.
Not just because it is healthy, and fun... but there is truly
no better way to embrace the sexual beauty within yourself like
masturbating. It allows you to better know yourself, your body,
your sexual desires, your sexual preferences and provides you
with the opportunity for a rich and fertile imagination through
your sexual fantasies.
is no right or wrong way to masturbate; as long as it feels
good and you don't do anything that will harm yourself (like
use a raw vegetable), its
a beautiful way to enjoy your sexuality. Remember that pleasure
is your ultimate goal and however you get there is the right
way to go about doing it so don't worry about what feels good
to others; rather find out what feels good for you.
Lisa S. Lawless, Ph.D.
Psychotherapist & Sexuality
CEO & Founder of
Holistic Wisdom, Inc. & NAASAS
Copyright © Holistic Wisdom, Inc.
first thing to do is to set up a comfortable environment for
yourself and if youre going to use sex toys get them and
your lube out and near you so that you are ready to go. You
may even have opted for a clitoral or gspot stimulating
lube which make the whole experience even more fun.
can make your masturbation experience even hotter by reading
an erotic book or watching
an erotic movie. Another
common thing to do is to think of a past sexual encounter
that really gets you hot, or fantasize about one youd like
to have. If you female
ejaculate you may want to use the bath tub as a playground
or simply get a waterproof
throw to protect your sheets.
have been more open to erotica especially with the Fifty
For clitoral stimulation you can use a variety
of things such as your fingers, a shower head, running water,
vibrators, rubbing up against
an object; anything that will stimulate the clitoris. Women
can be quite stimulated through a variety of areas as well
via the labia and gspot. However, it is not uncommon for most
women to climax primarily through clitoral orgasms.
using your fingers you can rub, stroke or pinch the clitoris.
You can also rub the hood of the clitoris or sides depending
on your personal preference. Some women prefer direct contact,
while others prefer the hood to stay over their clit and yet
others have a preference to which side of the clitoris they
shower head can be wonderful as well as you can adjust water
pressure, allow a steady or pulsing stream and the warmth
of the water can be quite stimulating in of itself.
the picture to the right, you can see that the arrow points
to the tip or head of the clitoris and it then extends much
further into the body (as seen via ultrasound).
can see why our 'love button' is very important to stimulate
when it comes to achieving orgasms and why we love vibrators
that stimulate them so easily and effectively.
send waves of vibration through the entire clitoris, rather
than just rubbing the external head, thus, causing the entire
clitoral system to be stimulated. You can also use dual
action vibrators for both clitoral and gspot stimulation
and there are even triple
action vibrators that cover the anus as well.
of clitoral gels
to help provide increased stimulation is proof that more people
are understanding the importance of the clitoris. Not all
clitoral gels are the same however, as some are warming, while
others are stimulating through herbal extracts. It is best
to look for a clitoral gel that is all natural and oil free
for health reasons and to prevent condom
and sex toy corrosion. It should also be paraben free as parabens
are many toys out there that are specifically made to locate
and stimulate the gspot, like the Bunny
Vibrators. By using a dildo,
you will also get an added feeling of fullness in your vagina
and against your gspot which can be even more fulfilling.
you can locate your gspot and can stimulate it with your fingers
then that is great, however most women do find it easier to
use some kind of gspot
sex toy. Sometimes using pillows,
a headboard or even a bath tub to push yourself into a position
with your legs open will provide easier access to reach up
article on what is the gspot
for more information.
anus is a very sensitive area of the body and when given a little
bit of attention, it can enhance sensual pleasure. You can explore
just the outside of you anus with your fingers, use small vibrators
or insert anal sex toys. There are
many to choose from. Just make sure that whenever you insert a toy,
finger, etc. into your anus that you have plenty of lubrication
and to wash your hands well if you decide to go to your vagina to
prevent a Urinary Tract
or pinching your nipples can provide added sexual stimulation. It
is also a great way to start off masturbation. You can even attach
nipple clamps that vibrate
or stay constant. If youre breasts are large enough, try licking
your nipples yourself. This can be extremely pleasurable.