Lisa S. Lawless, Ph.D.
Psychotherapist & Sexuality
CEO & Founder of
Holistic Wisdom, Inc. & NAASAS
Copyright © Holistic Wisdom, Inc.
At the end
of the day, there really is nothing more important than the
type of respect that one shows when they are protective of your
interests, needs, and desires and make gestures to show it.
It can be something as romantic as taking you to your favorite
restaurant for dinner or giving you a massage as a special treat.
However, it can be even more mundane such as helping you to
be happier through the little things.
some people hate the sound of loud chewing. In fact, some people
hate it so much it is referred to as Misophonia (which is the
aversion to sounds such as loud chewing or breathing). So when
your husband hears this is something that annoys you and goes
out of their way to chew more quietly and even makes sure music
is playing during dinner to make sure that your dinner is a
pleasant one... that is the type of thing that shows listening
with a proactive response.
does it show he is willing to put his ego aside and not take
offense that his chewing annoys you but that beyond his humility
he genuinely cares about your happiness. So, there ya have it,
listening and responding with caring gestures. Love, respect,
and kindness all wrapped up in one.