Unhealthy Sexual Repression
Throughout history there have been many confused individuals who were against masturbation. Some of these repressed individuals would go to such extremes that they would resort to barbaric types of prevention from forcing their daughters to wear gloves made of a steel wool material to piecing the foreskin of their son's penis with a wire and soldering the ends together. In addition, masturbation has been falsely associated with blindness, madness and illness. Of course, none of which are true.
In the 1940's & 1950's Alfred Kinsey helped bring awareness to this normal sexual behavior through his publications "Sexual Behavior in the Human Male" and "Sexual Behavior in the Human Female."
In 1970's & 80's, a woman named Betty Dodson, Ph.D., achieved fame from her approach to masturbation. She held classes for women to teach them how to masturbate to overcome repression and to learn how to "celebrate" their bodies.
Now, there are of course many that teach that masturbation is normal and healthy using scientific proof that it provides health benefits such as: stress relief, menstrual cramp relief, insomnia relief, as well as stimulating the immune system to help build up resistance to common infections. Masturbation also provides mood elevating hormones which of course helps one to feel better in general.
Our bodies are certainly wired for sexual sensation with all of our rich nerve endings and hormonal drives. It is natural and a deep part of who we are as a human beings and a great way for us to connect with a partner or without one.
Reducing Masturbation Jealousy
During masturbation there are many types of fantasies that can be had to achieve it. I encourage people to explore their fantasies while masturbating as it is away to let your creativity flow.
For couples that may be jealous of the idea of their partner masturbating without their involvement, you can discuss what types of fantasies you both feel comfortable with and that may even bring you closer together. I recommend, not putting limitations on your fantasies, however, perhaps agreeing that you will not fantasize about people you know in real life or previous romances may help reduce some of the apprehension you or your lover may have about masturbating without one another.
Perhaps once you feel more comfortable and have stronger trust in your relationship you will discontinue any need for fantasy boundaries, however some couples need this reassurance and that is fine if it is agreeable by both partners.
For the sake of this article, we are going to focus on masturbation of the individual as I believe that in order to first try connecting to one's sexuality in a purely spiritual manner, one must first try it by themselves.
We are going to explore what it is to connect with your spiritual self through masturbation. Perhaps some of you will call it your soul, others God, whatever you wish to call that part of you that is connected to all things in our universe and beyond... that is what we are talking about. The following is a brief overview of how you may accomplish this.
Whatever you consider God to be, remember the point here is to connect with what is pure about sexuality, what is beautiful. We tend to focus too much on our egos and compensate for our low self esteem in sexual fantasies... usually making ourselves the object of lust whether people in our fantasies are doing things to us or we are blowing someone's mind by doing something to them and winning their sexual desires. Those types of fantasies will not be the focus here.
What this exercise is intended to accomplish is to allow you to embrace sexuality as a completely natural part of yourself... one that is pure and without the baggage of ego. It can take you into a new realm of sexuality by allowing you to connect with it in a spiritual manner. When you do this, you will be able to see the true beauty of sexuality. You can see it as a gift in your life that you can celebrate on a higher level then you ever imagined.
So, lay back, relax and journey into a world of sexual bliss free of anxiety, free of inhibitions focused only on you and your connection to the infinite.
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