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Guide For Choosing What Is Best For You
face it... personal lubricants make everything feel so good!
Whether you are using a sex toy or grinding up against your
lover you can always have more fun when you use it.
lubricants are directly absorbed into the body without being
filtered through you liver and kidneys like food is, you should
be even more careful what you use and is why we tell you what
lubricants are the most pure. The most pure is aloe base lubricants
as they actually offer healing properties.
Lisa S. Lawless, Ph.D.
Psychotherapist & Sexuality Expert
CEO & Founder of
Holistic Wisdom, Inc. & NAASAS
Copyright © Holistic Wisdom, Inc.
help to make sex toys and sexual stimulation not only feel great,
but also prevent chafing and tearing. When you are aroused, your body
naturally creates lubricants so that you and a partner or sex toy
does not cause damage. However, sometimes, the addition of extra lubricant
can enhance sexual pleasure but also help when the body does not make
as much as it needs to for the level of friction that is occurring.
a lubricant does not pertain to just using it for use with
a partner. After all, friction also occurs during masturbation
for both men and women and can greatly enhance sexual pleasure.
With the new lubricants on the market now that make sexual
play feel more intense and pleasurable it is even more fun
to add them to your sexual regimen.
to Pick the Right Lubricant
Lubricants come in a variety of formulations
and that means that everyone can look at what is right for
them when it comes to the desired affect. From water-based,
silicone, silicone blends and petroleum based to stimulating,
warming and cooling you can experience a variety of appetizing
lubricants are the most common type of lubricant and the one
that we recommend the most. The reason for this is that it
is typically healthier when it comes to being absorbed by
the body and they are condom and sex toy compatible.
lubricants with glycerin are not recommended for women with
chronic yeast infections or whom are sensitive. They are also
more sticky on the skin, and can stain linens.
without glycerin, such as Aloe Cadabra
or Sliquid may be used on virtually any body part, vibrator, masturbation
sleeve, erection ring or dildo. It is the most universal lubricant,
and is shown to be one of the safest. An advantage of waterbased
lubricants are the easy cleanup as they rinse off with water easily
and do not require soap to remove.
lubricants are a great choice for use in the water as they
do not gunk up hot tub components and drains the way that
oil lubricants can. To wash of silicone lubricants you can
just use soap and water. If
you opt for silicone lubricants they are typically safe for
use with 100% medical grade silicone sex toys, but other sex
toys may break down from using them. Why do people enjoy oil
and silicone lubricants? They tend to be more slick in the
way that they feel and offer longer lubricating effects. There
are now silicone blends which are also an option.
based lubricants should be avoided but if used should be used
for male masturbation. They are not recommended for vaginal
penetration as they can make it more difficult for harmful
bacteria to be removed from the body. They can also clog pores.
They can be used for anal sex, however, we would recommend
a water-based lubricant for any type of sexual activity that
involves anal or vaginal penetration.
Do not use a petroleum based lubricants with anything made
of sex toys, condoms, or other products
as they can break down your sex toys and condoms.
Flavored lubricants are great for oral sex and we highly recommend
them. There are a lot of them that taste like cough syrup and our
staff and customers agree that there are only a few that taste like
real fruit. See
our flavored lubricant
reviews to see what we REALLY think about the different brands.
best way to apply lubricant is to use a small amount at
first, especially if it is silicone or oil based as you
will not need a lot of it.
you are using a Cyberskin sex toy you must use waterbased
lubricants and you will most likely need a lot of lubricant
as they along with other types of porous sex toys absorb
the lubricants easily and you will find it needing to
be reapplied from time to time.
you are a man using a masturbation sleeve you should lubricate
your penis and put some in the sleeve by pouring some
inside and rubbing it around with your finger before you
try and enter it.
general rule of thumb when using lubricant is that if it
does not slide in a comfortable manner than you need more.
The main point is to reduce friction, so add a dime size
until you can achieve that. Once you figure out what you
want to use then it will be easier the next time to get
that amount right the first time. If that if it doesn't
slide in comfortably, you probably need more lubricant.
in mind that oils tend to stain sheets, so we recommend using something
that you do not mind getting oil on. We sell waterproof
blankets that are perfect for massages, and sexual activity
so that when you are done you just throw it in the wash and your
clean up is done. Also, remember that if you are using massage oils
and will also be using sex toys are condoms you will not want to
get the oil on them. You will want to pre-warm the oil in a warmer
or by rubbing the massage oil in your hands first before applying.
using electrostimulation products using the right gel will
increase the strength of the stimulation by as much as 40%
as the electrostim gels are designed to lower skin resistance
and are conductive. We carry only paraben
free electrostimulation gels. If you opt not to use a
gel, you can use waterbased
lubricants (without glycerin) as an alternative, however,
keep in mind that it will not conduct the stimulation as well
as a electrode gel. Please make sure that you NEVER use any
lubricant with silicone, glycerin or mineral oil with an electrostimulation
product as the conductivity of it will
be affected and it may also eventually lose all conductive
See our article
specifically regarding yam lube to better
understand if it works and how.