Practicing these values can make any type of sexual relationship fulfilling, no matter what the politically correct doctrine of society dictates. No single type of relationship is better than another. A sexual relationship is simply a choice and with that choice comes the opportunity to assume accountability, responsibility and to accept that in everything we do, including sex, there is an opportunity for spiritual growth and connection.
When we experience unhealthy sex we are sure to find within us emotional and mental wounds that our soul is urging us to heal. Our soul wants us to become more whole within ourselves. Our sexual experiences provide an opportunity for us to reconnect with ourselves as well as experience the interconnectedness we have with others. Sexual experiences are actually a perfect opportunity to heal some of our inner wounds. When we seek out these spiritual and sexual experiences we can reconnect to our desires, our sense of empowerment, and the pleasure of being alive.
When we feed into our insecurities, fear, anger and other challenging emotions then we may begin to seek sexual experiences that are not spiritually rewarding. Sometimes our inner dysfunction is so powerful that we not only numb ourselves to spiritually rewarding sexual experiences, but also to having physically, emotionally, and mentally rewarding sexual experiences.
If we allow ourselves to completely surrender our insecurities and hang ups then we can truly see our interconnectedness and sense spirituality within all things including something so beautiful as healthy sex. We are granted an opportunity to see a sexual partner (whether in fantasy or in reality) as a reflection of aspects within ourselves. Sexuality is a quest for wholeness and who we are with sexually mirrors who we are on many levels.
Psychologically and spiritually, whether we experience masturbation or sex acts we are being called to integrate the feminine and masculine aspects within us. In the feminine aspect of divinity we can see the ability to conceive, give birth, and transform. In the masculine aspect of divinity we can see the power to fertilize, impregnate, and generate.
Individuals who can speak openly and honestly about their sexual needs will find that they can be respected for their individuality and sexual choices. Couples can negotiate their differences enable their relationship to gain intimacy and passion. Good communication and personal agreements are facilitated giving each partner a more clear understanding of the relationship.
When you experience sexual spirituality you have a wonderful opportunity to experience yourself in a renewed way. You are given the opportunity to heal shame, fear and repression as well as discover your natural, spiritual, sexual, healthy self. You can begin living your daily life in a more balanced, sensuous way while gaining spiritual and sexual knowledge. You can begin nurturing yourself and others with love and harmony. Your connection with yourself, your body and others will deepen along with your sense of spirituality. You can create healthy boundaries with yourself and you lover(s). You can even reach higher levels of sexual intensity and sexual ecstasy the more you progress.